Fall Cling…
Damn, it’s that time of year again, “Fall Cling.” You do know what that is right? It’s the annual migration of ex’s back in to your presence. In other words the first sign of the seasons beginning to change toward cooler temperatures and now your phone is ringing off the damn hook.
Normally on the other end of the line is a voice you haven’t
heard in months calling to “see how you been doing”, translation do you have a mate
I’m looking for someone to hook up with
before it gets cold. Fall Cling is the
first leg of the “Cycle”. Now let me
explain the Cycle for those who may not have heard this one. The Cycle is just that a cycle of events
going from hook up to break up that that spans from the Fall through Winter and
wrapping up at “Spring Break”.
We explained Fall Cling above. During that time things get real chummy between you and whoever is the flavor of the month. Chummy but the initiator is sure to not let the unsuspecting victim get too comfortable in this “relationship” of convenience. Now to maintain status and a comfortable or should I say “warm” position, the initiator remains visible and regularly accessible during the upcoming holiday season. They are around for fun during Halloween, will make an extended appearance at Thanksgiving dinner, and will even present you with a thoughtful gift at Christmas. Aww…
Now, on to New Year’s Eve and Day. This is the beginning of the end so pay
attention. You spend that evening
together but it’s not quite what you had hoped or expected. It was OK, mediocre at best. Even further, during
the month of January subtle changes in attitude begin to formulate. Not enough to get removed or booted from the
position because winter is far from over, but little tidbits that can be used
as a means of escape for later. It’s
like leaving a trail of bread crumbs so you won’t get lost. Things such as still affectionate but not as
much, kinda like he use to rush to open doors for you but now if he beats you
to it fine and if not, you can open it yourself. Another one, he or she would wait and
take incoming calls after you finished your conversation or they would at least
say excuse me before answering, now they just answer. They no longer cut the phone call short to
continue giving you their undivided attention.
And my favorite, he or she no longer introduces you to people you run in
to while out and about. I love that
one. And when you mention it, they swear
you’ve been introduced to that person on a previous encounter. Makes it sound real convincing and when you
don’t fall for it you get this pathetic apology, “my bad I would have sworn I
had introduced you before”, bogus!!
On to the grand finale, Valentine’s Day or should we call
this the “freedoms gate”. Valentine’s
Day is the day for love and couples right, not for you. It is on this day that you receive the most
thoughtless gift you can imagine. This
sparks both hurt feelings and possibly a knock down drag out argument. You’ve been truly let down blindsided if you
will. The wedge in the relationship has
been skillfully placed. Throughout the remainder of February the two of you are
constantly digging and picking at each other over the least little things. You start to remember how he/she no longer
shows you the same type of affection, how he/she is always on the phone when
you want to talk. Sound familiar?
Around mid-March when Spring is on the horizon the initiator
wants to “talk.” All of the fussing is
not working for them. They are tired of having to explain their whereabouts and
habits to you. The conversation can become
so convincing at times that often the victim suggest the two of you go your
separate ways. You have just entered “Spring Break” which translates to “Break”
out of this relationship and “Spring” into action to get ready for Summer.
That my friends it the infamous Cycle. Like it or not it can catch the best of us off guard. If you realize you’ve may have been pulled into it, either get out before you get hurt or twist it to make it work for you.
