Happy New Year…What the Fuck ever!!!
Now BigGirlz hopefully you made it
through Thanksgiving and Christmas and survived the barrage of questions
relating to “singlehood” and all of its glory or dreadum. Now, the last hurdle
is before us, New Year’s Eve…how freaking lovely!!!
Any given week can be a lonely or
even downright depressing time when you’re single but add the numerous
invitations to various New Year’s Eve parties and one could easily find
themselves ready to lose it or better yet lock themselves away until January
2nd. Although hiding may be a tempting
solution, you’ll still remain in a lonely dark state wishing time would quickly
pass; knowing time only passes quickly when you’re having fun or on a work
break.
So how do you get through this…first
you have to change your attitude?
Loneliness is a state of mind. Now I can easily direct you to the
plethora of cliché ish events that are deemed fulfilling at this time of year.
You know them: volunteer at a homeless shelter or nursing home. How about going
to a children’s home or hospital and bring joy to the little ones…blah blah
blah. All of that is wonderful, but really?
Realistically, we all can get pretty
self-absorb and somewhat overwhelmed with handling our emotions this time of
the year. So as I started above, you have to change your attitude. Being single
on New Year’s Eve is NOT the end of the world although if the Mayans had been
correct none of this would matter huh? Anyway if being single at New Year’s is
the worst thing about your life than honey I need to trade places with you (I
pass on that).
BigGirlz the choice you make this
evening could very well set the tone for 2013.
How will you fill the void?
Now you can ALWAYS go to church. Of
course I’m going to start with that first.
Pick a place pick a time. That’s a no brainer.
If you’re just not feeling the
church thing (ok super saved saints this excerpt ends here for you) call some
of the girls and have an impromptu DrinkFest. Everyone bring your favorite
poison and drink until you don’t know what day it is or don’t give a damn. I
say drink until you don’t give a damn.
If that’s not tugging at ya then (ok
super saved, you REALLY need to shut it down for real) make that infamous phone
call. You know the one. You really don’t like him but at least he knows how to
“fill your void”. Call him, who gives a
shit. He will either say yes or no. If the answer is no then you might want to
give the DrinkFest another chance.
In either case get the fuck over it. Its one damn night. We are on the cusp of a brand new start. Know that if you make it thru the night and can open your eyes to see 2013, you’ve just been given a pass or a “do over” if you will. It’s time to clean out your mental closet of regrets, inhibitions, “shouda coulda woulda” and every pitiful whiny-ass excuse you used in 2012. If that means you need to get rid of some people then dump his or her mentally draining ass. It’s not that you don’t love them but at some point you need to learn and start loving yourself more. Let’s get it cracking for 2013. I figure I have another shot at getting it right this time around.
I’ve been told a million times; what
you do on the first day of the year is a great indicator as to how it will flow
for the remaining 364 days. Don’t know
how you feel about that but…
My plans this evening are real
simple: and early church service and a date with my couch. I have a stack of
movies I’ve wanted to watch. Damn the rest of that mess, it’s all about me
tonight. Loving my BIGGIRLZ single
life. Find some joy ladies and remember
it starts within.
Moving on to the next with a
Heineken, bowl of popcorn and the remote…See ya next YEAR!!!
