So BigGirlz we have officially hit the 3rd month of the year.
Good ol March; Time for spring cleaning and spring release. Now if you didn’t succumb
to the “Cling Ritual”, than at least half of your work is complete. For those
who have no clue as to what “Fall Cling” is, in a Nutshell it’s the process of
allowing someone in your life during the Fall in preparation for a winter
cuddle buddy. There’s no relationship, commitment or hope of a future together.
It’s a purely physical affiliation used to ward off the loneliness of a long
bitter winter.
HAHA! Anywho...on to spring cleaning and release.
Now Spring release should be seamless if you followed the rules
when starting the cling process. You’ve moved past V-day and honestly your
clinger should be on its way out and completely gone before the Easter Bunny
drops a basket on your doorstep. Now, if the clinger is having a difficult time
leaving or is stalling, then you need to stand firm, replay the startup rules
and follow thru with the release. Feelings should be a non-factor. Again, stick
to your rules. Reversely, if you are hesitant and/or reluctant to relinquish
your duties as a clinger, prepare for fallout.
Ya see BigGirlz, you have falling into the release pit and have
now exposed yourself to “clingers remorse”. Not a good look, not a good look at
all!!!
So now what?
As usual my advice is to take it on head first and revisit the
rules you should have outlined during the start up. It’s easy to get
comfortable with “cuddles” but face it, is this really a situation you’d like
to see forever?
Consider this, who is reaping the rewards of this collaboration?
Now if both parties are giving equal effort and enjoying equivalent benefits,
then it sound as if this cling session morphed into something more than
initially constructed. BUT if you find yourself on the high end of a 60/40 or
even 70/30 give and take, then shut that crap down. Grow a pair and move this
exodus to closure.
BigGirlz, you’re wasting precious life moments on a dead end or
useless situation. Time to clean. Clean out your clinger but most importantly,
clean out your self-debilitating thoughts and actions. Don’t allow your comfort
zone to become your crutch zone. Cut the cast from your habits and step into
spring armed with motivation to do better and the desire to progress. De-clutter
your thoughts and your actions will follow.
I’m moving on to the next one, springing forward to a better
me!!!
